I guess i'm not a very good blogger because i haven't posted in like three months...lol oh well...i had once decided that i was gonna write here once a week...but i guess that only works when your being emo...now the only reason i'm doing this is because i'm avoiding homework...i also need to get out some writing blocks and get down on a keyboard so i can work a little better.
the thing is i'm writing a paper on my dad's current on again off again girlfriend Carol, and it's just been a really weird assignment for me for a lot of random reasons and i just really dont feel like doing it...what i'm hoping to do is make it really personal and hopefully i can do that by getting some of my ideas about it worked out in here before i set to work on it...and if i manage to do a good enough job in here figuring shit out, then maybe i can use some of it for my paper! lol! kill two birds with one stone.
so first of all, the class is called hawaiian, asian and pacific women in Hawaii, the assignment is to write a biography paper on one of those women...i guess all the local people had a pretty good advantage cuz they just interviewed they're mothers or grandmothers or aunties...but since i don't have any one around here finding someone was gonna be tricky. especially given the fact that i've already done two extensive interview and biography papers in my four years at UH...i'm kind of out of sources here...i guess i figured that since carol was the only local woman i really knew, it would be a good chance for us to get to know eachother.
i guess the thing that's been really going through my mind about it is the whole issue of my dad, i know the two have been dating for a while, and i met carol last summer so i know that things have been going really good for them...apparently they've been together since the fourth of July, when he tried to cop a feel under the fireworks after waiting for her all day to show up...too bad her oldest son was there and wanted to beat my dad up! lol...
it's just always been weird for me having my dad dating, especially because i know that he's a total player and he played my mom and of course i've always had issues with that. But lately, he's been so different and i'm pretty positive a large part of it has to do with her. i can actually tell that a change has occured in his mentality, he's been a million more times responsible than i have ever known him to be in my entire life. For the first time my mom told me that he started paying off some of the $80,000 in child support that he legally owes her. about a month after i found out about that, my dad told me that he's been helping carol file child support claims with her ex-husband...he told me that it's a mess. It's pretty amazing to me that something finally clicked to him that made him decide that he wanted to be a reliable human being. i guess i just feel like i can connect with carol because her family is going through the same kind of thing that my family went through and i know it can be alot to deal with.
So the main thing that has really been going through my mind with this whole time is the idea of balance and changes. Life starts out simple, in carol's case, she grew up in wahiawa where her mother and father lived in the same house for her entire life and where her mother continues to reside now. living a life with this kind of stability creates a balance in your life. somethings change like you move out go to college and find romance. all these things upset the balance that has been carefully built up throughout your life and it always takes time to bring things back to equillibrium.
carol wasn't too explicit with the details of her life, mainly just gave me a rough timeline and some fun and interesting tidbits.
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